The dictionary definition of Charisma is – rare person quality attributed to leaders who around fervent popular devotion and enthusiasm and person magnetism or charm.
Having charisma might be the difference between being a successful speaker or business person and not, your confidence and enthusiasm proves you know what you are talking about.
So with this in mind can we learn Charisma or are we born with it?
Can we learn to be more charismatic
Achim Nowak, author of the new book Infectious: How to Connect Deeply and Unleash the Energetic Leader Within, believes that “Charisma is a primal energy, a sexual energy, a spiritual energy,” he explains. “If you accept that definition, then we all have it.”
It is true that we all know it when we see it. Think of Marilyn Monroe, Oprah Winfrey, or Barak Obama. So what it is that makes these individuals so charismatic? Where does this magical energy live and how does it manifest? Does it come down to a handshake, eye contact, body language or is it a combination of all of these things and more?
What are some of the ways in which we can access this energy to bring more charisma out?
Here are a few qualities I believe can be honed and practised to give you more charisma:
- A good amount of self-confidence and assurance – speakers who have this appear to be at ease when they speak to an audience.
- A sense of fun and playfulness. A charismatic speaker enjoy themselves, they are happy and humorous.
- An understanding and knowledge of the subject you are speaking about.
- A lively energy – a charismatic speaker has a real sense of energy and presence.
- A charismatic speaker has a flow to their delivery. They speak without stumbling, using full sentences and correct grammar and avoid the ‘er’s and ‘ums’.
- An honest approach that shows an independent opinion about the subject they are talking about. They genuinely care about it. You are able to sense their emotion, enthusiasm and conviction.
- Organisation when it comes to the presentation or speech being made. Their points are clearly connected and logical. Precision is key.
- By concentrating on the audience a charismatic speaker shows they care, they build rapport and there is a clear connection. They leave their audience uplifted and inspired.
By modelling the behaviour of charismatic people, we too can become more charismatic and engaging.
A good exercise to do is to make a list of all the attributes you believe a charismatic person has. Then look at ways in which you can model these attributes. It might not feel comfortable initially, but with a little time and practise, there is no reason why you can not succeed. Give it a go and see what happens!