When will I learn? When someone challenges me to do something, however subtly, I would say that 9 times out of 10 I will oblige and take up the challenge. So it won’t surprise those who know me, that when the word duathlon was mentioned, I felt that I had very few excuses as to why I couldn’t participate. I had, after all, been bought a fabulous new bike for my birthday. So you see, no excuse would work. I have completed three half marathons over the past few years, so the 5km run before and after the 23km cycle ride should be a doddle……
It’s just like riding a bike……
As I peddled like crazy, climbing yet another steep hill, desperately trying to work out how all 21 gears on said new bike worked, I had a moment of utter frustration. I suppose if you were to describe me, impatient might spring to mind. My inner dialogue is shouting “Why did I ever think I would be able to do this” “This is so difficult” “I hate cycling!” My breathing was laboured and my thighs were burning. I glanced at my watch which read just over 5 miles. My aim was to complete 14.2 miles today, the distance of the cycle in the duathlon. This, I realised was rather over-optimistic and with great annoyance (with myself) I managed a mere 8.5 miles.
Then I took myself back to the two intentions that I set myself this morning. I choose to accept and I choose to be happy. So far I wasn’t doing much in the way of staying on track with my intentions. So what did I do
I made a choice. My choice was to accept that although I hadn’t achieved 14.2 miles on this occasion, I had managed to get myself out there (only my third proper cycle ride) and I managed to complete 8.4 miles. That in itself was an achievement surely? I could have chosen to bypass the cycle and made many excuses as to why I couldn’t go, but I didn’t.
Moving the Goal Post
We are so quick to berate ourselves when we don’t achieve the goal we set ourselves. So maybe it’s time to be a little bit more realistic. Keep the goal, but move the goal posts slightly. I know without a doubt that I will achieve my goal of riding 14.2 miles (not just when I turn up to do the duathlon either!). It might just take me a little longer to reach it. It might mean that I take a slightly different route, or build up to the distance in stages rather than going all out, burning out and wondering why it all feels so difficult.
Give yourself a break! Whatever challenges you may be facing right now, in any area of your world, give yourself time to step back and look at things from a different perspective. This is the only way you will be in a position to ever see things differently. By seeing things from a different view point, you may choose to take a different approach. Moving the goal post is okay just a different approach towards the same goal.