We all have those ‘ wobble’ days right? I mean those days that we just feel a bit out of sorts, a bit low and bit blah. Sometimes they can seemingly come from nowhere. We can’t quite pinpoint why we feel lacking energy, motivation and general ‘omphness’. It’s just one of those days where we just do. Simple. Or is it?
As a female I know that depending on the hormone levels searing around my body, I may or may not feel short tempered, teary and perhaps a little sensitive, ok maybe a lot. Sleep deprivation also does this to me. So when a wobble day hits when the hormones can’t be blamed and a good solid 7 hours of sleep has been enjoyed, it can feel a little disconcerting and strange.
What do you do when a wobble day hits? Do you fight against it, telling yourself and everyone around you, through gritted teeth that “I’m fine” when all you really want to do is scream? Do you hibernate for the day under the duvet and avoid contact with the outside world? Do you go to the gym and workout all of the frustration and wobbly feelings? Everyone deals with their challenging days in different ways, and that is absolutely as it should be. We are all unique and we all experience things within the perimeters of our own worlds, depending on what that looks like, sounds like and feels like to us.
One of Those Days
My preferred coping mechanism is to retreat from those around me and to put up the barriers. I often find myself eating far from ideal foods and the thought of going for a run makes me feel physically sick. So when I experienced a seemingly out of the blue wobble day recently, I took a moment to notice what I was drawn to do. Did those behaviours serve me? By isolating myself from the people around me that love me and accept me, I wasn’t really allowing myself to sit with the feelings and be kind to myself. This is something I know a number of people struggle with. So I got up and meditated. Then I focused on my yoga practice, followed by some positive affirmations. The negativity lifted. Not completely, but there was a marked difference. By engaging in activities that I knew could re-energise me, I was then able to set my intention for the day. To accept. As simple as those two words….. I accept.
I went to work playing that mantra around in my head…. I accept. I allowed myself to notice the feelings, and sit with them for a time. Then I gave myself permission to let go of them. Easy right? No, not easy at all! I spent the day having a bit of an internal battle. Every time I allowed myself to lift and feel positive there was that little voice saying ” yes but what about this….” And the negative thought would see me demotivated and lacking energy. It was tiring!
This Too Shall Pass
By the evening, I was short tempered with the children which made me feel guilty and it became the evidence I needed to reinforce the fact that I was having a bad day. So I went to bed. Yep, I decided that tomorrow was a new day and verbalised my favourite mantra “this too shall pass” and do you know what, it did.
What I realised was that it is totally ok to have ‘one of those days’, as long as we can recognise that everything is a choice and the only constant is change. No one is superhuman. We are however in the wonderful position of being able to choose how we react and how we behave. Ultimately we choose how we want to move forward.