It doesn’t matter how prepared, organised, primed, set, prepped, ready, Wired or on it you are, sometimes things just don’t go to plan. Sometimes those ‘things’ are out of our control. I can recount numerous stories where certain things just haven’t gone to plan in all areas of my life and I am sure many of you can too. So when it happens to you when you are willing it not to, how does it make you feel and what impact can it have?
Frustrated, annoyed, angry, upset, fed up, you get the picture I’m sure. It can also feel unfair can’t it? When we set out to do something that is important to us we can feel as though the universe has conspired against us.
Out of our Control
It’s a little bit like when you are having ‘one of those days’ when EVERYTHING goes wrong. It may feel like EVERYTHING has gone wrong, but is it really EVERYTHING? We look out for the negatives when we are feeling negative. It’s the same when we are feeling positive. If we set our intention to be present and mindful of feeling uplifted, empowered, accepting, patient or any number of other states that work in a positive way for you, then ultimately that is where our focus will be, and ultimately we will get to the end of our day feeling as though it’s been a good day.
When we start a new school, a new job, a new sport, a new anything, it can feel as though we don’t know what we are doing. We can feel unsure, self-conscious and lacking in confidence which can lead to a lack of belief in our ability. Especially if the goals we set ourselves or the expectations we have are not met in the way we wanted.
My Experience with Facebook Live
So this leads me on to my very own “Well this really isn’t going to plan” moment (which felt like a lifetime!) last week when I decided to step outside my comfort zone and experiment with the Facebook Live Video Feed, using my Facebook Page I was prepared, organised, primed, set, prepped, ready, wired and on it, until a moment before I was due to go live and my internet connection decided to fail me and tell me the connection was too weak. ARRGGGGHHHHHH was my reaction. I finally managed to Go Live but I felt distracted and thrown by the constant flashing warning almost shouting at me “WEAK CONNECTION, WEAK CONNECTION!” I continued and the connection held out for a while, although the picture was terrible and eventually it just stopped working. So there I was staring at a blank screen feeling totally frustrated and annoyed. What impact did it have? I felt fed up and felt as though I had failed. A big word I know, but being the rather competitive perfectionist that I am sometimes, that is exactly how I felt.
One Facebook Live Stream that did work a little better but still my connection was weak.
Fast forward a week. What have I learnt? I know I couldn’t have been any more prepared for my Facebook Live stream, I know I did my best in the given situation. I also know that sometimes, just sometimes, things don’t always go to plan, sometimes things are out of our control. So, true to the saying Never Give Up, next time I will take a breath, smile and know that these things happen to the best of us, and there are bigger things to worry about in life, right?!
If you want to see trying again – please watch on Sunday at 6pm on my Julia Montague Vocability Facebook Page