It’s a funny thing this idea of love. It could be seen as the single most important theme in life and I think I agree. Let’s break it down a little because the word Love can come into play in absolutely every area of our lives. The love we feel for a significant other, our children, our parents, our siblings and our friends are probably the ones that will come to mind more quickly than the love of your job, career, God (or whatever word works for you) and finally yourself.
What does it mean to love yourself?
So with that in mind lets park all of these apart from a couple. Let’s start with the love of yourself. It’s an interesting concept isn’t it. We hear it all the time “love yourself” but what does it really mean and how can it change the way we interact with others and how can it change the way we approach the choices we make and the actions we take? Everything in life is about choice, including love.
How much time and energy do you actually give to yourself? I’m not just talking about the whole ‘loving yourself’ thing, I’m talking about the time and headspace and energy you take on yourself. What is it you love doing? Maybe it’s a sport, something creative, walking, spending time alone, reading, meditating or literally just being. Whatever those activities might be, take a moment to think about how often you really give yourself permission to do any of these things. Think about it- we give our time, respect, love and commitment to many people and things in our world, but do we give the same time, love and commitment to ourselves?
Do you ever praise yourself for the things you do well? Do you speak kindly to yourself as you would to others? Are you able to not only tell others what you love about yourself but actually believe them? It may sound crazy and you may think that in doing so you could seem arrogant or come across as someone with a big ego. My question to you would be why? When you are able to see your own positive traits, attributes, skills etc…. Then surely that enables you to continue to develop and grow to be even better? Being unaware and maybe focusing on everyone and everything other than you doesn’t allow for that, so in essence, maybe you aren’t loving yourself or even giving yourself the time, respect and commitment that YOU deserve.
What would have to happen in order for you to take a ‘time out’, a moment to say “right now I’m choosing to do something that serves me, that gives me the time, respect and commitment I allow for others?”
And if you did do it, take that time to love yourself – just for that moment, what would it look like, sound like and feel like? Wouldn’t it be really interesting to make a choice and give it go? Who knows, maybe you may just allow that ripple effect to happen. Maybe you might just see, hear and feel the impact in other areas of your life too.