A good few years ago I read a book called How To Become A Money Magnet by Marie-Claire Carlyle. At the time money was incredibly tight and I was looking for any help I could find that would have all the answers to my money worries.
So many elements of the book resonated with me and I found myself asking the question ‘How do I feel about money?’
When I sat down and thought about it, I realised that my relationship with money wasn’t at all positive. In fact, it was downright negative. I listened to what I said to myself when it came to money and found that often I told myself that I didn’t deserve to have money, well not the amount I really wanted anyway.
Fast forward five years or so. I am now a qualified NLP Master Coach, and would like to think that I live by the principles of it having spent about two years on my NLP journey. As part of this, there has been plenty of time for self-discovery and huge Aha! Moments. When I sat down again to look at my relationship with money I found that the inner voice was still there. Although it wasn’t as loud this time, it was still controlling my ability to move from a negative to a positive relationship with money.
With some value realignment work around money I was able to shift and reframe my thoughts, feeling and actions when it came to money.
What is your relationship with money
What stays with me from the book is the idea of mindset. What are YOU saying to yourself when it comes to money? One of the exercises in the book that will help you to engage with your truth towards money is a series of questioning. So, if you feel you would like to gain some more insight, and you are ready to be honest, grab a pad of blank paper.
Let’s look at your money beliefs. Write down quickly any thoughts that come to mind about money. Write them (if possible) on separate pieces of paper. Here are some questions that might be helpful:
- What were you told as a child about money?
- What did money mean to you growing up?
- What’s your favourite saying about money?
- What comes to mind when you read about wealthy people?
- Who is your role model for attracting money?
Then divide the pieces of paper into two piles, one that represents the positive statements and the other that represents the negative.
Do you have more positive or negative statements? Be honest J If you have more negative statements then it is time to really think about how you can attract money by turning your relationship with money into a more positive one. Who is responsible for your relationship with money? YOU and you alone, so you have a choice. You can make the choice to shift your focus and your energy from a sense of lack to a sense of richness.
Let me know if you find this exercise useful. I know I did. My financial situation has changed massively over the last few years, and I know that fundamentally it is because I have made big shifts into a positive and focused outlook.
Let me know – What is your relationship with money?